My "Just Because It's Wednesday" blog was inspired by a conversation with a dear friend about dating. Being married for a long time and dating in this current culture is very different. (You can check back on my first blog to read it for reference.) It was about showering your loved one with wonderful and unexpected surprises for no reason at all. My friend who is married and much younger understands the "old school" type of chivalry and treating his bride like a queen. Yet, we were talking about how making our loved one feel loved and validated with even the smallest gestures can make such a difference. He said, how about doing something nice "Just Because It's Wednesday?" And, this became the title of my new blog series. The conversation started because I was very disheartened and disappointed with dating not only for myself, but stories I have heard from other single people and widows/widowers back in the dating game. It is all so confusing, the rules have changed, but I still have hope. I know you are out there!
So, I have a dare...a love challenge. Do something for your loved one, kids, friends or coworkers today for no other reason..."Just Because It's Wednesday!" Some ideas include learning their love language. How do they feel loved and validated? Is it physical affection, words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts or quality time? (You can read the book, "The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, it is very helpful.) Here are some ideas:
*Tell a co-worker, "Hey, great job on that project!
*Pack a surprise with a note for your child in their lunchbox.
*Hug your teenager and tell them, "I love you for no reason at all." In today's hyper focus and expectation on kids to be super overachievers, this will mean a lot.
*Send an encouragement card to someone who is struggling.
*If you are married or in a relationship, ask them on a date, or help around the house. (Oh what I would give for some help around the house!)
*Show up with a coffee.
If you want meaningful and satisfying relationships, show them they are loved, seen and heard! Pay attention. The smallest effort on your part can make a BIG difference. Communication is crucial. Your people cannot read your mind. Start asking questions about what they love and please mark their birthday on your calendar!
I will be writing and sharing this series every Wednesday, be sure to check back.
*My name is Jennifer. I am a certified life coach. Yes, I took the classes, but most of what I learned comes from the library of my experience. As a widow of a 23 year marriage, a lot has changed in dating; but there are some things that stay the same. I help people see their value, worth, learn new communication skills, boundaries and help bring out their best.
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